I love a dramatic story…I like it more when it’s in song form so I can roll the windows down and scream it, I mean sing it at the top of my lungs. But let’s be honest, no body is going to “catch a grenade for ya, throw their head on a blade for ya, or jump in front of a train for ya.” Sorry Bruno…you’re fun to sing with though, no hurt feelings.
Real life relationships (friendship or boyfriend) most likely won’t call for that type of thing. I mean I reallllly hope not right? Because I love you and all but I’m probably going to wet my pants and run if some one throws a grenade. It just is what it is.
But what if it does get heavy? What if your parents are going through a divorce, your brother is on drugs, you get a cancer diagnosis or you find out you are pregnant…at 15? How many people will be saving you a seat in the lunchroom then? Things just got real.
I want to talk to you about who you are hanging around. I would have said “I want to talk to you about your friends.” But chances are those are two different things. And listen I totally get it…sometimes we hang around people we know aren’t good for us or that we know deep in our soul don’t even want us there. Because the other option is sitting at home on a Friday night with your mama. Looser. (kidding) I sat home with mine a lot.
Give me a shot at persuading you why choosing…AND STICKING WITH your Christian friends is really the only way to get through this life. Hang here with me? Thanks love.
Imagine the scene. Two friends, best friends. They have been through IT ALL together. I mean hard things like death and poverty and moving cities. Things get bad AGAIN and they need to leave. There is a conversation before the road trip….and not the kind that you text. The kind that you bust open her bedroom door, jump on the bed and get right up in her face. She realizes that she should make this trip alone because the other girl has better options. She PLEADS with her to *save herself* go back where it is safe. Back to food and shelter and family. But because they are “sisters” through God and best friends by choice listen to the response…
“Don’t force me to leave you; don’t make me go home. Where you go, I go; and where you live, I’ll live. Your people are my people, your God is my god; where you die, I’ll die, and that’s where I’ll be buried, so help me God—not even death itself is going to come between us!” Ruth 1:16-17 (The Actual Bible)
She ain’t goin’ down like that! In todays language it would look more like this…
“Are you kidding me right now!? Seriously!!? You want me to leave you NOW? After EVERYTHING we have been through together? Are you NUTS?! Give me a freaking break I’m coming with you!!!! I would rather DIE than stay here without you!! Stop wasting our time with this ridiculous conversation and pack your bag…I’ll grab the Starbucks and our mixed CD. Shut up and let’s go! End of discussion! Get the keys…”
Ruth 1:16-17 (The Allison Lee Translation)
Do you have a friend like that? One who sticks like glue in the good AND bad times? Your boyfriend dumped you, your face blessed you with 27 new zits, your parents are insane, your grades suck, you aren’t getting invited to any of the parties and let’s be real…you aren’t getting a cute boy (or an ugly one) holding a dozen roses and a poster asking you to prom any time soon.
Does she leave you for a limo ride with “friends” who only asked her to fill the seat and cut their costs? More popular ground? Are you worth more to her than a good Instagram photo?
No? Baby girl…you know that’s not right. And that’s not friendship. That’s convenient-ship. No thanks.
When you say “no” to cheating on a test, drinking your parents vodka or smoking weed because hey…”Everybody get’s high sometimes you know. What else can we do when we’re feeling low?” (Really Justin? You’re an idiot. There’s actually p-l-e-n-t-y we can do.) What then? Are you still friends? When you aren’t allowed to go to the beach for spring break or a cabin after the dance because your parents aren’t willing to pimp you out…what now? Still friends?
There is a reason most of us have friends and acquaintances. There is a difference and I want you to learn it now. Like ASAP.
Are your Christian friends going to be perfect? Um, nope. Are you? No. But you have the same game plan, the same Book, the same end goal, THE SAME CODE You are on the same team… Can you find non-Christian best friends? Of course!
But lean in and let me whisper something to you… they will see your discernment as judgement and more than likely it will just be a constant battle of you trying to make choices that honor God and her making you feel like an anchor that weighs her down.
Here’s how the Bible puts it….
Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.” 1 Corinthians 15:33
Here’s how the internet puts it…
“You are a direct result of the thoughts that you think, the people that you spend time with, and the books that you read.”
Girls…Don’t exchange genuine friendship for ANYTHING. Fight for each other. Cling to each other. Forgive each other. Pray for each other. Stand up for each other. And HAVE FUN TOGETHER!
That about wraps it up and hey…I sure do love you. Big time. It might be time to reevaluate some friendships…and that’s ok. Your mom will love a Friday night or two on the couch with you until this gets straightened out.
God is for you…work with Him.